The Potluck Guy

I was invited to a potluck / barbeque this weekend and participated in a lengthy discussion on various spiritual topic. I found it interesting how people were interacting in the conversations. One guy talked about war, while the other guy was discussing the law of attraction. There was a physicist who was determined to make us believe his point of view on a subject. Very interesting energy.

Then I was approached by this young guy that asked what I meant about the comment I made which was," If you want to know where you are going in your life, just look at the friends you hand out with." He couldn't understand that by hanging around his friends that he would not get any farther then where they have been, or are going in their lives. If you listen to someone that is negative all the time, and you believe that there is no issues with that, then you will most likely adopt these beliefs as well and end up repeating them.

But what happened next was very good for me as I will explain later. He proceeded to tell me that he was separated from his girlfriend and the had a child, but we still friends. And did not know where to go with that because he felt that it was not going anywhere and why did he hang around with her at all. So I started asking him questions like, " Where do you see it going? What do you want out of this relationship/ friendship? Are you hanging on to the hope that she will eventually change her mind and take you back? Is this blocking you from moving forward in your own life?

He said that he wanted to be part of his child's life. As I pointed out that he can still be with is child but does she have to be in the picture all the time? Anyway, it got to a point that he was feeling some anger coming up. And I said to him, that this was a good thing because he was finally getting in touch with his emotions and that if he really wanted the answer to his questions, he needed to look at his anger. He then stood up and walked away. Which did not surprise me because males have a challenge looking at their emotions, because they probably have not been taught how to deal with them and it is too scary, so they stuff them inside again and again.

Then, two days ago, I went for coffee with a good friend of mine, that is a male but has done a ton of inner work on himself and understands the process of healing emotions. As we were talking, the conversation turned and he kept on telling me all the things I was doing wrong in my life from his perspective of course. As I could feel myself withdrawing slowly, by not responding to his words, I felt myself getting deeply frustrated and angry. I knew I had to get away from him so that I could figure out what the heck was triggering me.

I told him that I was heading home, he wanted me to go for a walk and I was not in the mood. So I gave him a short hug and got in my truck and drove off. I was in shock as to why I was feeling so angry and could not put my finger on it. Until I got home. I realized that I was being shown by my guides and Spirit that when I was talking to this young guy at the potluck, and he ended up getting angry from the questions I kept asking him, what was happening with my good friend was the exact same thing.

I got to experience what I was projecting on to that potluck guy. I immediately called my friend and apologized and said that I got the message from that teaching moment that we shared . It was to show me how I am using my words to ask questions with other people, that I should be asking myself to get to the cause of my own anger issues. I told him that I felt like he was only focusing on all the stuff that I do that is wrong and that he never focuses on the things I do right. I felt extremely criticized. 

He asked me who criticized me as a child. And I answered my mother. And I also told him that this is what I've been feeling with all my bosses lately. I feel they criticize everything I do. And it makes me feel like I'm not good enough at my jobs so I end up leaving all the time. So I', grateful today that I experienced that chat with that potluck guy because he might never know what gift of insight he gave me. And that's OK.  It has shifted my view on how I treat people when they are asking for help. It's about learning to communicate in a different way. Perhaps focus on what they are doing right, and help them to see how they might be able to improve it from there.

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Money causes dot dot dot

" Your perfect just the way you are, I wouldn't change you if I could." Ricky Skaggs

I listen to this song practically everyday. To remind me that Great Spirit has made me perfect just the way I am. I love hearing it sung to me. I was watching a program last night with an interview with Alanis Morrisette . I can so relate to her and how she says it made her uncomfortable having people watching her perform. I'm the same. I play music a little and I play on my own. I have an incredible talent that not many people know about. I've always believed that if I would have had music in my school when I was a kid, I would have taken of with it and made something with my music gift. 

The money was the issue in my childhood. Money has a way of stopping people to do a lot of things. Imagine what we would do if money was not in the picture. What if money had no say in the matter. If we just gave everything. Everything was free to have. I could go into this store and say, I want that piano or guitar. Or I want to drive this car this week and this truck next week and totally respecting and being responsible beings. And I want to travel to this place and stay there for a whole month and it was free to eat and play and have the most fun ever. How fun would the world be? Music everywhere you went. That's a world I want.

I think money stops us from being happy. It makes up stories in our minds that we end up believing about ourselves that's really not true at all. It sets a standard of truth that stops ours spirit to take flight and be set free. Our level of love for each other without money would reach beyond ourselves, because the first thoughts that would come up would not be those of, " I wonder how much money she/he has?

Jealousy for each other is another energy that money carries around it. It creates huge wars. People believe they have the right to take another persons life because they are jealous of something they have. Money has creates massive issues on this planet. It's causes environments issues, political issues, food issues, drug issues, even to the point that we use money to try to find another planet like us out there, hoping that we can get to it.  Believe me , there are no other planets like the landfilled infested, chemically plagued planet that we have created for the humans that live here.

Money is the cause of the everything that we have created and destroyed on this planet. It's a damn shame. And the kids are the ones that are going to have to clean up this mess, if we survive this one. It will take something really massive and big to get people to realize where we stand right now. People are in huge denial. And we are all perfect just the way we are.

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Shifting hate into love

I will be starting a second part-time job in a week or so. I have never had to do two jobs in order to provide for my needs. The place I work now is packed at lunch time. The line up is continuous for two hours. They are making great money. I get paid eleven dollars an hour for my hard work which I love to do. I excel in the kitchen. For the money they are making everyday, I would not trade my time for it. I realized this today. If I had a choice to take their place of working 7 days a week for a whole year without time off  instead of working for eleven dollars an hour and get to do something in nature each week, I'd choose nature.


It looks like we are needing to experience deep poverty and extreme riches in order to learn the profound lessons. It seems that the only alternative to getting out of poverty victim roles is to work your behind off and if your lucky enough you may enjoy one or two weeks a year for fun. What has happened to the people of this planet that we value dollar amounts more then we value the integrity of a human being? If I was paid for my integrity, I'd be worth millions.


I question myself as to why I'm in this job. What is it that I am meant to learn from working for a boss that is extremely picky, has no tolerance for mistakes and judges the performance of a new employee in one day? Perhaps I'm the one that is picky in areas of my life, or that I have no tolerance for mistakes, and I judge the performance of people in my life. Maybe I am being mirrored back what it is I need to look at. I have been aware lately that I seem to focus on self hating. Like I'm noticing that I'll project thoughts that frustrate me and I ends up in a hate energy. Like I hate having to work for so little pay or I hate that people litter on the ground still ( it baffles me still that people chose not to respect the planet we live on it's like we have all decided that the Earth is a giant landfill site for our emotional trash) Oh just got a great idea. ..I could go on but I will shift the hate into thoughts of love. I have to remember to love everything all the time. And it is very challenging to do.


So many people live in jobs that they hate. They hate the boss, the workers they work with, the work they have to do, the time they have to spend away from their family to provide them food , shelter and clothing. It's a love/hate relationship that never seems to end. I feel that it has a lot to do with self hate. I have to start there and turn the self hate talk, into self-love talk. I know deep in my heart I feel love for everything, and it saddens me when I get into this hate place. I don't feel like myself. But it comes up so that I can work on what is causing this emotion to fester.


So this new idea is a great project to help pass the winter time. I should have started this spring, since it involves outdoor activity. I'd better get cracking. Once I have it completed, I will share it with the world. This is what happens when I share my feelings out loud. I get to the core of inspiration that linger deep inside me. I will also have to manifest the money for it.


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Can Tide take out Debt stains?

" Our circumstances do not define us. We can achieve anything we put our minds to." Gail Von-Oxlade

Here is an update on my progress. I have been working at my new job now for a few weeks. Apparently full time hours today is 30 hours a week. At $11.00 an hour, it won't cover all my bills at the end of the month, so I had no choice but to get a second part-time temporary job so I can survive.

It sure feels like the people with money have a hard time understanding that the people who live in poverty are struggling and they don't seem to care about our survival. It seems to me that the only thing that matters is that they survive. My new boss is much younger then me and she keeps saying that she is going to treat us very well. But I think that she is bluffing just because she doesn't want to go anywhere, because I'm such a great worker and loyal.

My first paycheck I noticed that she never deducted any federal taxes. I will wait to see what she does with my next paycheck. She told me that before she decided to buy this franchise that she was an accountant for a company for over 15 years. So she must know what she is doing. I did check on our government's website and there is a law that if the employer decides to have employees as share holders, we don't have to pay taxes. This is new to me.

This is new to me, I know of another company that does this also. She had to work for a fast food company for a year and a half before she could get into franchising and says she knows what it's like to live on minimum wage. We'll see what happens. Right now I like the hours and don't mind the workload.

The other job is a temporary position and I could be hired after the store is opened. But that means I might have to work 6 to 7 days a week. I'm not sure how I can handle it physically. I have managed to catch up on my credit card so I don't get to lose the privilege of using it later and my cell phone is also caught up. I want to keep moving forward and started hedging some money again which feels good.

My sister keeps asking me to find a Debtor's anonymous meeting, but I have been  to these groups and they don't allow any teachings from outside sources which keeps the group in a box and they don't grow, they recycle the same stuff over again. Telling your story over and over keeps you in  victim mode. You have to let go of the story of the past and make a new story.

I have to pay off my course in November. So this second job will help out.  My friend is going to India next month. He got his trip paid by a friend. I would much rather spend my time in a cabin in the woods my a lake for a month then go to India, but to each his own.

It saddens me that I have no money to go on a vacation somewhere. I've never been on a vacation anywhere. I don't like to travel alone and I have no one to travel with that has the time or the money. so I take short trips close to home. Tomorrow I'm heading south of my city to a little farm that is a nice quite place to go.

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May My Money be Balanced and Healthy

" What we must decide is perhaps how we are valuable rather than how valuable we are." Edgar Z. Friedenberg






I had sent a letter to my mom asking her if she could send me some money to help me cover my rent next month. Also letting her know that if she couldn't, I would understand and find another way. I got a check yesterday to cover my rent but with a note asking me to pack my bags and move back home. I would be insane to do that.

The only reason she wants me to come and live with her for free is to take care of her. Who's going to take care of me when I'm her age? Not her. That the old folks way of thinking down home. They believe that if they leave you anything after they are gone, that you have to earn the reward by sacrificing your life for theirs. They have old folks homes for that.

It has been a bit tough for me to save money to fly home because I have to save at least $2500 to cover my flight, meals, all my bills covered, plus one weeks wages. They would prefer I go home every year, if it was possible for me. So much for what I want to do with my money. I haven't been home in five years because I don't miss the gossip and constant complaining that everyone talks about on a daily bases. It get's very depressing.

It sure makes me want to save my money to do something for myself. I have never been anywhere on a real vacation. Just because I don't like going places by myself.  I've been considering getting a new vehicle. If my job that I'm at right now, turns out well, and I start making $13 to $14 an hour in a few weeks, I may consider getting selling my truck. I have been reading in my book about what a fool archetype does and I have to stay on top of these patterns, because they will keep destroying me financially.

"The Fool also set's out to conquer the world but is easily distracted and lacks the discipline of the Warrior. The Fool is much more interested in making as a sport or form of recreation than a serious endeavor. Fools would happily give the shirt off their backs only to realize later that it was their last one." The Fool archetype tries to control my money while the Victim finds the reasons for me to spend money in order to make me feel better about myself.


" Capitalism and it's underlying drive toward consumerism greatly influences the financial infrastructure of our lives and how we deal with money. Perhaps our need for money is as much about sustaining our way of life and the survival of capitalism as it is about feeding our own unconscious needs and desires."




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Mind your own business

" Wealth is measured in time and Rich is measured in money" Robert Kiyosaki




I made a good choice taking the restaurant job over the bus driving job. My new boss is so good. We opened on Thursday of this week and our sales were so great that we ranked 3 place in all the takeout places in Canada. With only 5 people in staff and two owners. The head office is so impressed that they are thinking of making our store the head training place for other owners. That is very cool.

My boss said to us yesterday that we will be getting more wages and she is looking into benefits for us as well. Sometimes it pays to do something you love, for less money, then to do something you hate for more money and end up leaving in the end. We are always told what a great job we are doing, I'm almost tired of hearing it. That's a first.

So, finally I'm in a job that I love to do. I excel in the kitchen area. I love it when the work load if not extreme, like some places I've worked that you can't seem to catch up. This is great because we have 4 items on the menu and that's it. But the line up at noon says it all. All we need to get now is a few more employees. I can now make a list of what needs to be paid first and then begin to save money again. I'm still planning to sell my vehicle for something that is less pricy on gas.

What a difference from a few weeks ago, when I was not sure how I was going to my rent. I have some money, about $80 and a friend actually owes me $60 for helping him paint. I should be getting a check from work today or tomorrow. I'm not rich yet, but it is getting better. It's all about finding a place of feeling relief.

Robert Kiyosaki says in 1971 the rules of the money game changed. when president Nixon took us off the gold standards, and second in 1974 when 401k. The 401K now meant that you no longer had a paycheck for life. Which meant, the job you work in was no longer your retirement plan.

The rules prior to 1974 were ,

1- Go to school, get a safe and secure job.

2- The second was work hard to earn more money.

3- Save money. 

4- Buy a house

5- Get out of debt

6- Invest for the long term

7- Diversify

Those are the old rules and there are still people stuck into those old rules. But there are new rules.

Lets take the word "School" Before 1974 you could go to school and get a job. But today after 1971 and 1974, people need to know that you need more education then the school system is willing to provide. We learn to read, write and do math. These are important yes. Then you get to decide what you will be after school, a lawyer, doctor, teacher , etc. The one thing that the school systems do not provide is a financial education. The lack in the knowledge of how important it is to teach money management to kids.

All the teacher teach to kids are the old rules of money, therefore repeating the same patterns again and again. That is inadequate financial education in todays society. I'm learning more about money outside the school system the I ever learned in school. If I was taught what I know today about money in school, my future would have been very different. I have increased my Financial IQ.

This is why there are so many people in trouble. There are four basic people in the world. There are employees, self-employees, there's big business and there's an investor.  The real reason people get into financial trouble is that they get a job as an employee or a specialist, example a doctor or carpenter. This is what our school system currently train people to be. It is no wonder that employees pay the highest percentage of taxes. Second are the specialist, the doctors, lawyers etc.

The big business and investors pay the least or no taxes. The rich people train people to learn the business side of the equation. How to learn to do the business and if your under a strong support system, you have no choice but to succeed if you do the work needed. You don't have to quit your job to get on board on the other side. Money doesn't make you rich or poor, it's your education about money that decides if your rich or poor.

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Living within my means

I started working in a new takeout place, which opens this Thursday. I am really good at attracting job, that is a no brainer for me. The problem is the types of jobs I seem to attract , pay little in wages. I'm now at $11 an hour, with maybe 30 hours a week. Now I have to figure out how I'm going to pay my rent, insurance, cell phone and credit card bills. I have gather two part-time cleaning jobs and a temporary painting job also. So I have to see how I'm going to use that money to pay what is due at the end of this month.

A lot of people I know are all living within their means, and some below there means for that matter. In a world that has tons of money. It is so sad that families and individuals, like me, have to struggle to make ends meet all the time. I have decided to sell my truck. I have no choice at this time. It is too expensive on fuel. When I first bought it ten years ago, the gas was affordable for me, not anymore. The oil companies are not laughing anymore, because as the prices of gas goes up, the big Tonka Ford and GMC dealers are starting to get a hint because they hare struggling to sell the gas guzzlers they keep producing. Nobody wants to pay that much in gas anymore.

My alternative is to drive a vehicle that is a lot cheaper on gas. Once I can get ahead a bit financial, my 4x4 is going up for sale. I have a saying in front of my computer that says" A part of all I earn is mine to keep" Which has been a challenging keeping. " The advertising and media industries have convinced us that we are nothing without money and material possessions. We are at the grip of a national and global obsession. We have been brain washed  into believing that the material possessions are what we're suppose to want, that fulfillment comes from what we have rather than how we live, and feel. At a time when we are running out of land to build more shopping malls, televisions, and the internet have created virtual shopping malls that allows us to shop twenty-four hours a day-----all to fill a void that we deeply feel but fail to understand. Meanwhile, the billions of dollars we spend exploiting mass addiction for buying things we don't really need could be used to save the Earth as it teeters on the edge of disaster." 

When are we going to wake up? When is enough going to be enough? What are the kids of the future going to do with the all the crap we have left behind? Here I am buying the bear essentials to survive while millions shop till they drop and with that more then likely getting deeper into debt. Our school system is a joke. They won't teach kids how to manage money which should be part of the daily curriculum. It's a damn shame that I was never taught how important it is to learn this survival tool.

And we wonder why so many kids these days are not doing well in there lives. It's because we equate money to our self worth. If we have no money, our belief system figures out that we are not worth much. Because our society main focus is, if you have lots of money, you are somebody. How many people do you see in the world that have hardly any money that do great things and are recognized for that? Not very many. So our belief is that the more money we have, the more we are valued in the world.

It all comes down to , do I matter and how much money do I need in order to feel that I matter?

Today I have enough money. Just for today, I have money to buy food and gas to get to work. I am grateful for the money I do have. Because today is all there is. Tomorrow, I could be a millionaire, but for today, I have enough.

And so it is.

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