I was thought to avoid failure. At all cost. I was told to succeed in life and that was meant as the main goal in life. This is an attitude that has cost me a lot. Fear is attached to failure. When I allow fear of failure to take charge in my life, I miss our on taking risk on all kinds of opportunities. The problem then becomes a fear of taking risks in life, because you fear to fail.
It's a safety switch that comes on inside myself. I have a need to feel safe in life. If I risk going beyond my limits, I will find myself in places that I might not be able to handle. Isn't that is limited way of living? It's the "don't try anything you can't win at" attitude. " Don't attempt to try doing something you can't do perfectly the first time" Wow , I see a lot of people today that they try so hard to keep up with doing things perfectly which is run my fear of not looking good in the eyes of others. I wonder is they were raised by someone that were always putting them down and as a kid we then to want to please our parents , not matter what the cost.
As a kid we don't know the difference between what is right and what is wrong. So we do our best to find ways to get it right. Then we learn that failure is not an option in life because we will get punished in some way for doing it wrong the first time. We have learned this method through so many generations and I feel it has ruined many children from living the life they dream about as a kid. I can relate to that.
As ironically as it sounds, failure leads to success. I bet you that you can go to any successful person and ask them if they have experienced failure on their way to success and the majority will agree that they have experienced great failures, which has led them to great success in their lives. They succeeded because they were willing to fail. You see we are not perfect, by far. We are human beings, doing life the best that we can with the knowledge that we learn. When you know better , you do better.
Avoiding failure means that I'm avoiding feedback in life. We often like to stay in our comfort zones. We can learn lessons through successes, but we can learn more lessons through failures. Failures gives us the feedback through the hard mistakes we've made.This gives us the opportunity to look at the mistake and use our problem solving skills to turn the mistakes into meaningful life tools. Because we don't tend to make the same mistake twice if we have learned our lesson the first time.All of the successes I've had have come from the feedback I've been given, which may have been labled as failures. The people who taught me to avoid failure, probably missed out on a lot of success
I cannot be around people who need to be around positive people all the time. This tells me that they refuse to allow themselves to see the mistakes they make in their lives. If they constantly end up bashing anything you say or do, that's not being a positive person at all To me this is being inferior.
There are a lot of people out in the world who read books about how to do the techniques and then charge a lot of money for their services when in fact they have not done any inner work at all but pretend they have. I can spot them really fast. They want to be something their not. Ok I went off topic, oh well, my lesson here is to stay more focused on what I blog about , perhaps. The rabbit trail has many openings.
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